Overnight Widow

On Monday morning of December 23, 2019, my entire life changed. My husband, my son’s father, and my best friend passed away from a massive heart attack at the age of 43. My heart was broken into a million pieces. At 40, I was now an Overnight Widow. What do I do? How do I go on? What do I tell my 4 year old son?

In 2014, I founded Nola Bougie, a lifestyle brand and blog with a mission to inspire women to live their best lives by becoming the best versions of themselves. That day, I just wanted to shut down. How could I live my best life without my soul mate? 

I’m not strong.  I’m surviving. I’m in Survival mode. Every single day.

 “The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same, nor would you want to.” 

There are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. While we are told there are stages, there is no set timeline on how long these stages last or even if they are in that particular order. 

How I choose to grieve will not be how you choose to grieve. “Society” always wants to place an expectation or time limit on someone else’s experiences. You can’t. This is my journey and I’m grieving on my own terms! 


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